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When Grief Feels Too Big to Hold

I know how easy it is to push grief aside, especially when life keeps moving around you. Deadlines don’t stop. Responsibilities pile up. People mean well when they ask how you’re doing, but sometimes there’s no easy answer.

Grief is heavy, unpredictable, and exhausting. If you work in an environment that values logic and precision, it can feel like there’s no room for something as messy and nonlinear as loss. But here’s what I want you to hear today. You don’t have to hold it all in. Your grief deserves space too.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to sign up for The Creative Shift, my weekly newsletter that shares gentle creative practices for processing emotions like grief. You can join here.

Let’s talk about what that might look like. How to sit with grief instead of fighting it, how creativity can help when words fail, and how small moments of acceptance can make this journey feel just a little lighter.

Grief Doesn’t Follow a Formula

If only there were a clear path through grief. A checklist or a step-by-step guide that could tell you when it’ll start feeling easier. But grief doesn’t work like that. It’s not a straight line, and it definitely doesn’t come with a timeline.

What You Need to Know About Grief

• It’s not linear. Some days feel lighter, and some feel impossibly heavy.
• It doesn’t have a deadline. There’s no “normal” amount of time for grieving.
• It can take many forms—sadness, anger, guilt, relief, or all of the above.

If you’ve ever felt like you should be further along in your grief, I want you to pause and remind yourself. There’s no right way to grieve. However you’re feeling is valid.

Reflection Question: When was the last time you let yourself sit with your grief without trying to fix it?

Why It’s Hard to Make Space for Grief

For a lot of us, grief feels inconvenient. It interrupts routines. It doesn’t fit neatly into a calendar. And in spaces where emotional expression isn’t always encouraged, like STEM fields, it’s easy to feel like you’ve got to compartmentalize your emotions just to get through the day.

But grief doesn’t go away just because we ignore it. It lingers in the background, waiting for a moment to be acknowledged.

What Happens When We Don’t Make Space for Grief

• The emotional weight builds up, leading to exhaustion and burnout.
• It gets harder to focus or engage in daily tasks.
• The feelings don’t actually disappear. They just surface in other ways.

Small Action Tip: The next time grief comes up, instead of pushing it away, pause and tell yourself, “It’s okay to feel this.” Even that small acknowledgment can make a difference.

Mindfulness and Grief: Staying Present with What Hurts

When you’re grieving, the instinct is often to escape the pain. But mindfulness offers a different approach. It invites you to stay present with your emotions, even the difficult ones, without judgment.

Simple Ways to Practice Mindfulness with Grief

• Take slow, deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed.
• Notice where grief shows up in your body. Does it feel like a tight chest, a lump in your throat, or something else?
• Let emotions arise without labelling them as good or bad.

You don’t have to sit with grief all day. But giving it even five minutes of your presence can be a powerful act of self-compassion.

Reflection Question: What does grief feel like in your body right now?

Creating Space for Grief Through Expression

Sometimes grief feels impossible to put into words. That’s where creative expression can help. Whether it’s writing, art, or movement, creating something gives emotions a way to move through you instead of staying stuck.

Ways to Make Space for Grief

• Set aside ten minutes a day for quiet reflection.
• Write in a journal without filtering your thoughts.
• Use art, poetry, or music to express what words can’t capture.

Practical Tip: Try scheduling a “grief pause” in your day, even if it’s just five minutes. Let yourself feel whatever comes up without rushing to move past it.

Creative Activity: Emotional Landscape Drawing

Grief is complex, and sometimes it helps to express it in a way that isn’t tied to language. This activity lets you explore your emotions visually, using colours, shapes, and movement instead of words.

What You’ll Need

• A blank sheet of paper or journal
• Coloured pencils, markers, or pastels

Instructions

1. Take a few deep breaths and notice any emotions present in your body.
2. Imagine your grief as a landscape. What colours, shapes, or textures represent how you’re feeling?
3. Start drawing without worrying about the outcome. Let the emotions guide your hand.
4. When you’re finished, take a moment to observe your artwork.

Reflection Prompt: What emotions surfaced during this activity? Did any colours or shapes surprise you?

If this kind of creative expression feels helpful, the free 5-Day Creative Reset Challenge offers guided activities to gently reconnect with your emotions and bring in more clarity. You can sign up for the challenge here.

Breaking Through the Barriers to Grieving

It’s not always easy to let yourself grieve, especially when the world expects you to keep moving. You might feel pressure to be strong or to move on, but grief doesn’t work on anyone else’s schedule.

Common Barriers to Processing Grief

• Feeling like grief is inconvenient.
• Worrying that others will judge your emotions.
• Believing you should have moved on by now.

The truth is, grief isn’t something you get over. It’s something you learn to live alongside. And that process looks different for everyone.

Practical Tip: If you ever doubt whether your grief is valid, remind yourself, “There’s no right way to grieve. My process is my own.”

Final Thoughts: Grief Deserves Space

Grief isn’t a problem to solve. It’s an experience to honour.

When you give yourself permission to feel, when you express your emotions creatively, when you stop rushing yourself through the process, you make space for healing.

Every small act of honouring your grief, whether it’s a deep breath, a journal entry, or a quiet moment with a cup of tea, is a step toward integration and emotional clarity.

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You don’t have to navigate grief alone. Let’s create space for it together.

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